Our Method
Children develop their strongest SEL skills through positive relationships with supportive adults.
The Mariposa Method is a relationship-based approach to social-emotional learning (SEL) that shifts the focus from managing children’s behavior to building adult capacity. At its core is a simple yet powerful belief: children learn SEL skills best through emotionally supportive relationships—not through direct instruction, reward systems, or punishment.
How does it work?
We shift the focus from “fixing” children’s behavior to equipping adults with practical skills to support kids through challenging moments. Instead of using rewards or punishments, it builds empathy, self-motivation, and helps adults respond with calm and connection.
Our programs meet all nine Harvard criteria for effective social-emotional learning (SEL) training, ensuring they are research-backed, comprehensive, and aligned with best practices.
With 50+ years of combined research and classroom expertise, our method is a trusted, proven approach to social-emotional learning.
We continuously refine our method based on current psychological research and feedback from over 34K adults and 100K children who have experienced it.
What Makes The Mariposa Method Effective?
Our Method Is Based In Brain-Science
Our approach is rooted in neuroscience: when the brain perceives social threat, it triggers a cortisol-driven stress response that impairs listening, learning, and problem solving.Â
We begin by lowering stress—because meaningful social emotional development can only take place when the brain feels “safe.”
We Teach Practical Skills for Everyday Life
We break down big concepts and lifestyle shifts into easily digestible sections and skills and offer flexible learning options for busy schedules.
By practicing in familiar contexts, adults build confidence and consistency, making these skills a natural part of their daily interactions and decision-making.
The Mariposa Method Comprises 5 Skills
Research shows that children develop social-emotional resilience when adults consistently use these five skills. You don’t have to be born with them—we’ll teach you why they’re important and how to use them effectively.
Empathetic Reflection
Understand beneath the behavior.
Authentic Expression
Share yourself respectfully.
Shared Problem-Solving
Work together for a win-win.
Descriptive Reinforcement
Recognize effort, not labels
Constructive
Discipline
Guide growth with clear expectations.
Why Mariposa Works
Our Mission & Vision
We envision a world where every child is seen, valued, and empowered to thrive. Learn how we’re making this vision a reality.
Explore Our Mission & VisionMeet Our Team
The Mariposa Method blends research and real-world experience, developed by Anne, a social-emotional scientist, and Jenny, a seasoned educator.
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Programs for Schools
Tell us your goals, and we’ll help implement SEL methods at scale for long-term impact in your learning community.
Courses for Educators
Adopt strategies that help you connect with students, reduce stress, and teach with renewed purpose.
Courses for Parents
Learn to build trust, empathy, and understanding with your child—so you can create the family life you envision.
Meaningful outcomes for young people start with the adults who guide them.
The Mariposa Method’s 20+ years of outcome data tells a story of what’s possible for you.Â
Explore the Data50%Â of adults reported feeling less stress
80%Â of adults reported improved adult-child relationships
66%Â of educators reported less teacher-student conflict
“Having these skills has afforded my students with skills to better manage their emotions in any situation. If this course were mandatory for all staff and parents, we would have a dynamic shift in student performance, feeling of community, open communication and the relationships we have with our students. ”
-Â Courtney, Educator
“I can connect with them through acknowledging their feelings and thinking about how we both feel in the moment. This program has had a positive impact on my relationship with my children allowing me to understand their feelings and talk instead of guessing.”
- Dontae, Parent
“Taking the Mariposa training 7 years ago completely changed my teaching philosophy and style. It was hands-down the most transformative and impactful training of my career. Mariposa taught me that relationships are the backbone of good teaching, and that with trust comes success.”
-Â Wendy, School Administrator
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